It is imperative to pursue PEACE in our relationships. I understand we are all different. However when we encounter disputes or differences it is a mature thing to stay humble and have empathy for the other person, whoever they are: spouse, kids, family members, co-workers, neighbors, etc.
Empathy is when you look at someone else’s perspective or struggle and try to understand. I learned a method that when applied instead of freaking out, really helps. It’s called the 6second method. When you have that feeling of anger rising within you or the impulse to lash out (scream), try your best to quench it and keep your mouth shut. As you do this, take a deep breath. This will reset the “fight or flight” mode in the brain and allow you to rethink your answer and behavior. It gives time to choose a more appropriate answer.
We all have a seed of self-control and patience in us. Start to use them, water them and watch them grow and get stronger.
“A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls” -Prov. 25:28
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” -Ephesians 4:2